Watch you negative Thoughts

This is a beautiful message that I captured from #Ray Higdon podcast that I am sharing below.

Your negative thoughts are dictating what choices you see!

Because if you remain in agitation, you will see fewer choices.

Instead catch those thoughts and set new intentions,

and all of a sudden you will see new more choices and opportunities open up for you.

The Ceramic Cup

 This is an extract from the book, "LEADERS EAT LAST", by Simon Sinek.

This is a story about a former Under-Secretary of Defense, who gave a speech to a large audience.

He began to talk sharing the prepared material. After some time, he paused to take a sip of coffee from a Styrofoam cup which he had brought with him on stage. He then took another sip and looked down at the cup and smiled.

"You know", he said interrupting his speech. I was here last year and presented at the same conference on the same stage but that time I was still the Under-Secretary.

I flew here business class. When I landed at the airport, there was someone waiting for me who escorted me to the Hotel. At the hotel there was someone who had already checked me in and handed me the key and escorted me to the room. The next morning when I went down the lobby, there was someone who drove me to this venue. I entered the venue from the back door, and I was escorted to the green room where I was handed a coffee in a beautiful ceramic cup.

This time as I speak, I am no longer the Under-Secretary. I flew here economy class. As I arrived at the airport, there was no one to receive me, I took a taxi and came to the hotel. There was no one there, I checked myself in the hotel room. This morning when I came down the lobby again there was no one there, so I took a taxi and came to this venue. I entered this venue from the front door and found my way to the green room. When I asked for coffee, I was directed to the coffee machine along the wall where I poured my coffee into a Styrofoam cup there. He raised the cup to show to the audience. "It appears to me", he said, the ceramic cup they gave me last year was not for me, it was for the position I held. I deserve a Styrofoam cup.

The most important lesson I can impart to you is that the perks, benefits and advantages you enjoy are for the position you hold, they aren't meant for you. When you leave the role, which you eventually will, they will give the ceramic cup to the person who replaces you. 

"Because you only deserve a Styrofoam cup"

I need Likes on my Posts & Pages!

 So you have a business and you've setup a Facebook page and you want to grow that page. And in the hunt to have more likes you send mass invites to your friends list and invite them to like your page.

Most people are unaware that this could be hurting more than helping them? What!!!

So you hit the invite button and sent out unsolicited invites to your Facebook friends, and suppose they liked it. What have you accomplished? Absolutely Nothing!

These people went and clicked on the page because you suggested it. Chances are they will never become your customer. What have you accomplished? Absolutely nothing!

So now you may have got a thousands of likes to your page, but how many of those are going to become actively engaged with your business? Probably None.

In the social marketing arena these activities are considered as good as fraud or SPAM.

Social media sites like Google and Facebook strive to limit the spread of spam because they don't want to allow content that is designed to deceive or mislead users to increase viewership. Such activities create a negative user experience and detracts from peoples ability to engage authentically.

Facebook have developed their algorithms in such a way that they predict which post might create more interaction with your friends and show these posts higher in their feed. These are the posts that inspire back and forth discussion in the comments and posts that might likely be shared.

The internet is full of noise, don't be just another voice vying customer attention. You'll fail.

Instead offer something of value . Create content that is share worthy and engaging and will help your clients in more productive ways.

If you make post that people share, they are talking about it, Facebook shows it to more people. Why? Because they want engagement.

Your clients and audience requires the best, so stop flooding their news feed with the outdated way of thinking.

FOCUS ON CREATING CONTENT THAT WILL CONVERT VIEWERS INTO CUSTOMERS.

To learn how to create valuable content for your post on social media, please feel free to send me a message in the contact form. I will be happy to set up a quick call with you to discuss further.

WHAT YOU SAY NEXT IS GOING TO CHANGE YOUR WORLD

 This quick learning has been inspired by the reading from a book on communication skills by late Marshall Rosenberg.

Communication is a process of exchange of words in a way that excludes Judgement, blame and violence.

Effective communication is not about what we talk, but its about how we express ourselves what we feel, what the other person hears, feels and interprets what we have said!

WHAT YOU SAY NEXT IS GOING TO CHANGE YOUR WORLD

Whenever in a meeting or a discussion when we want our needs to be met, it is important how we communicate effectively what we want and being understood, without offending the other person.

In order for our needs to be met when in a discussion, we need to incorporate a few steps in the process of how we communicate effectively.

This is possible when we are consciously observing what is actually happening in the situation what others are saying or doing, analyse the information what we have observed, and then express our feeling about out observation of the situation. Feelings play an important role in the process of connecting with the other person on an emotional level. You will never be able to communicate effectively if you have not made that emotional connection with the other person in context. After we have expressed our feelings about the situation we may then express how our need is connected to the feelings we have expressed.

Once we have communicated the 3 aspects of the process of effective communication- observation, feeling & need, we need to follow immediately with our request with what we want the other person to do that would make life better for us. When we follow these 4 steps in the process of effective communication, we will notice how we have been able to meet our needs more effectively.

It may be difficult to begin with, but once you have practiced these skills, you will notice how you have developed as a better communicator and have your needs met effectively without much resistance and resentment from the other person.

So remember, WHAT YOU SAY NEXT IS GOING TO CHANGE YOUR WORLD.

To know how I can help you overcome your challenges in life, please feel free to send me a message in the contact form. I will be happy to set up a quick call with you to discuss further.

YOU ARE A LEADER

In the past the model of leadership was telling others what to do, "Control the masses" and attain a position of power

Leadership isn't Position & Power. It is an influence and is used to help people

Leaders add value to people, encourage & empower them and help them grow and succeed

When a leader tells you that he sees a leader in you, he knows what he is talking and doing. If he thinks you can, then you can. You should not let yourself and him down

All you need is an aspiration to succeed and an openness to learn and be helped as a leader

Leader answer your questions, shares leadership wisdom & practices and gives you an opportunity to lead

LEADERS don't happen overnight, but nothing worthwhile does.

Make a Difference!

To know how I can help you overcome your challenges in life, please feel free to send me a message in the contact form. I will be happy to set up a quick call with you to discuss further.

WHAT IS YOUR INNER SELF-TALK

Don't underestimate the power of your spoken word.

Watch what you talk irrespective of what you think. If there is a lot of criticism, judgment, complaining, self criticism, if you are always blaming yourself, your self esteem will be affected in a negative way

If you pay attention and observe it, you will see how it manifests in everything that happens to you

If you are constantly feeling weak, powerless, a failure, not good enough, then that's what your world will feel like, because your self-talk will become your self fulfilling prophecy

You are what you tell yourself constantly, because your inner talk is like a repeated suggestion of a hypnotist

Keep your conversion with yourself positive, focus on what you want and speak into existence as if you already have it

If you find yourself struggling at something, instead of saying it's impossible, ask yourself "How can I do it?" and your mind will find an answer and come up with it

You can change your life by changing your language

To know how I can help you overcome your challenges in life, please feel free to send me a message in the contact form. I will be happy to set up a quick call with you to discuss further.

Listen to your Body

 We are always innovating, always developing, New training, new everything and we go hard on ourselves and not sleep enough, and that is what I am also working on, my body and sleep schedule

Sleep is important for everything, When I was younger I could do many things, not that I can not do it now, but I chose not to do some things

Earlier I used to sleep only 4-5 hours a night when I started off on my project, and I sometimes still find myself in that zone, and it gets me out of my rhythm, and I'm in the process of getting away from that

Everyone's body is different, when I sleep 6-7 hours a night, I find myself a little more repaired and re-energized, but that's for me

You need to find what works for you, if your body needs that rest, give your body that gift

That extra one hour at work or your computer is going to be far less productive if your body isn't getting what it needs

Listen to your body. This is the vehicle you got and this is the only vehicle you have. So, Listen to your body

To know how I can help you overcome your challenges in life, please feel free to send me a message in the contact form. I will be happy to set up a quick call with you to discuss further.